Summer

Apparently there wasn’t much of a summer here this year…July wasn’t bad I was here I know. August they say was grey. I was in Turkey for most of it.

Someone said to me back in July that I must have spent most of my energies for a long time on integrating here. That’s what most immigrants bent on integration do apparently. But now that I feel integrated, I have all this surplus energy which I am diverting to creative activities.

This blog has suffered a little as a result. But it has already served its purpose (and will for a while longer but not as frequently). Purpose? To make me write regularly. I now do. After the play in May – June, in August, I wrote a short story. Not the best one you can read but I am happy to have started and finished something. I know how hard some things in life can be and am under no illusion that they will happen easily and quickly. So one step at a time, one entry, one short play, one short story, one evening / morning entry in a little black notebook…

Back in April I had booked my trip to Turkey. First a couple of weeks, then three, then by the time I clicked on the ‘next’ button on Easy Jet website it was 4.5 weeks. I am glad I clicked when I did.

I am also glad I went when I did. Not because I avoided the grey. Grey here is not something you can avoid. You come and you go, and it’s usually here. But you learn not to mind it. You tell yourself that it’s all about atmospheric conditions and latitude and not because the gods above have anything against you personally.

I am glad I went when I did because I was beginning to burn out. A couple of weeks before I went, I found myself at the bottom of the escalators in Oxford Circus tube station one evening not remember where I was going and once I remembered how I was going to get there. Oh boy, it was scary. People walked past in fast motion, signs flew circles around my head. And after what seemed like an age, I turned right towards Central Line. I was going home after all and I couldn’t remember which line…the line I took for 12 years…

I also wanted to go to Turkey for a long time to meet the beautiful people of my motherland. Since I left in 1991, I’d not been there more than three weeks and not met anyone I hadn’t known before I left. Those I’d known before were mostly miserable now…if not miserable; ever so adult, what with kids, bad marriages, large credit card debts, boring jobs...We had fun together but it was only a respite from their lives. I wanted to meet genuinely happy people.

I don’t know if there are such things anywhere in the world, let alone Turkey, where people have some genuine problems. But I wanted to believe there was. I wanted to believe that those atmospheric conditions I don’t take personally here will work for me there and get out of the way of the sun. Again not for me but they did get out of the way.

I sweated just the way I’d missed doing (I really had missed sweating).

I rested: I would go to bed at night feeling genuinely excited about getting up the next morning and having absolutely nothing to do all day.

I swam – sometimes sideways like old ladies used to do, sometimes pretending to be in the Olympics (which I couldn’t watch due to lack of TV).

I walked up a mountain at midnight to watch natural gas seeping from the ground and burning like it did for thousands of years.

I walked and swam amongst the ruins of an ancient town – where there had been a settlement since before the time of Christ.

I got on a cable car and climbed to 2365 meters above sea level…which I would not have done had I realized they cut through the forest to build a 7 km road to the base of the cable car.

I got into the sea at full moon at the early hours of the morning…clear as the day.

I partied like there was no tomorrow….sometimes there was hardly any tomorrow as I didn’t wake up or at least get up till late afternoon.

I drunk raki and ate fish while listening to Zeki Muren and crying.

I did much more…but let the literary critics find out about those as a great Turkish poet, Orhan Veli, says at the end of one of his poems.

Cardiff

I went to Cardiff on Wednesday…now why talk about Cardiff of all places when I haven’t written for weeks?...So long (and thanks to a laptop crash in the meantime) in fact that I couldn’t remember my account name to sign in to the blogspot!...well because I feel like it!

I went to Cardiff for the first time a few years ago…maybe as much as six-seven years ago. It was a work trip. We stayed at one of those soulless hotels for a couple of nights. I remember looking out of the window to this 1970s concrete cube of an office block turned hotel called The Big Sleep and thinking I’d like to stay there next time I come to Cardiff. There is great satisfaction in achieving something small as returning to a city to stay in a hotel that you wanted to. Another tick.

So earlier this week when I was told to be there for a 10 am meeting yesterday, I thought why not go the night before (instead of getting up at stupid o’clock in the morning) and stay at The Big Sleep.

Got there about 9.30 pm…
Grey and chilly…
Station – small but tidy.
A taxi rank with all the taxis in town there at once.
Asked a taxi driver the direction:
A taxi driver hailed from the deserts of Sudan or Ethiopia or somewhere around there…to the greyness of Cardiff.
“Walk to the end of this road, cross the street, you’ll see a crane – red of colour – it’s past that on the right” he said.
“A crane – red of colour” what generosity of poetry for a crane…
On a grey evening in Cardiff

The entrance to the hotel was unpromising but…
Reception – blue and white of colour – was relaxing.
My room on the 10th floor;
A quite city beneath my feet;
Hills in the distance;
Crane lights winking against the darkening sky.

Inside the room – blue and white of colour;
A big bed…
John Malkovich smiling from a huge poster on the opposite wall!
Bass beats coming from the Cardiff Arena across the road,
Jay-Z it was, I learnt in the morning.

I had wanted to have a quiet night,
Away from my usual surroundings and trillion things that have been occupying my head back in London.

Sleep wasn’t as generous as poetry….
It came quickly but didn’t stay long.
Shower in the morning was hot,
Shampoo smelled nice,
White towels were soft and warm.

Breakfast room was pink…
They managed to do pink without girly
And…the best bit?
Crumpets for breakfast…
There were crumpets for breakfast at The Big Sleep!
Put a smile on my face then and all day and on the faces of those I shared the crumpet story with…

Life is simple if we don’t complicate it.
Small things are indeed big sources of happiness.
“a crane – red of colour”…
“crumpets for breakfast”…

We won the project I was in Cardiff for.
Another source of happiness;
But even after that project is done and dusted,
The crane and crumpets will stay with me.

Correction

Ruthless was the wrong word to use (April 12). I am still not sure what the correct word is. When I said:

You want to use me, I use you…and I won’t play fair.

It was a confrontation. And that was the warning.

You want to use me? I’ll use you back so don’t even think of starting (or continuing any more)

is what I wanted to say…

Update

I haven’t blogged this month but I’ve written a short play. 10-15 minutes. The director and the writer I am working with both liked it. I am working on improving it. What I aspired to do most my life is becoming a reality – a small reality but a reality nonetheless.

When I finished the first draft, I knew there was still a lot to do before it can be finished but I had an immense satisfaction of having finished something…having thought of it from beginning to end and executed it…something I’ve created…something I will be able to share with not only those who read it but those who will come to see it played.

When I started writing it I was worried that it would be ‘too much like the real life’…I felt in order to write something interesting one had to create imaginary characters, life, events…my life or the lives of others I know wasn’t good enough. When I expressed this as a concern to the director he smiled and said ‘if it’s like real life, it will be a great success’. How true!

It’s only a short play. It’s only about something I know very well and lived over and over again. But it’s only my first attempt. Now that I know I can do this, I know I can do more.

Persepolis

Persepolis was a ceremonial capital of the Persian Empire – the earliest remains of which are found from 515BC. The Persepolis this entry is about is the animation film with the same name…over 2500 years after the city and as further away from the glorious days of ancient Iran as can be.

I read the two books the film is based on last summer at my friend H’s house in Ibiza. H doesn’t get up much earlier than noon so I spent the mornings – or what were left of them after I woke up – reading and writing. The drawing of a naïf girl (Marjane Satrapi) on the cover of Persepolis attracted my attention and I couldn’t put them down…correction…like all great books: I couldn’t put them down to start with but slowed down towards the end to prolong the pleasure of residing in the world they created.

The same happened in the film last Friday – I sat on the first row in a small room and was close enough to feel dizzy at times…by the swirling jasmine petals, people running away from police, flying cars and all the rest you should see for yourself.

Both the books and the film are magical…without the magic. Nothing magical just a life story…in fact its magic is in its simplicity…just a woman telling her life story – a truly and only human story…no artificial colourings or flavourings…just a tear jerking and side splitting masterpiece.

But it’s not just the story of an Iranian woman. It’s the story of all immigrants – and maybe that’s why I like it so much. It’s about the price paid for freedom and that all of us pay a price for freedom. The highest price of freedom immigrants pay is loneliness. The price is the same wherever you come from and wherever you immigrate to. And it doesn’t matter what you are running from – family, religion, torture, poverty even yourself…

The price paid is not just loneliness though – there are indecision, fear and acceptance. Every day the immigrant has to answer the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’. The immigrant fears the answers to ‘am I doing the right thing?’ ‘are they accepting me?’ ‘am I as good as them?’…all the questions immigrants ask herself is aimed at herself, aimed at putting herself down. Acceptance of self, of place and of own choices doesn’t come automatically. Yes, she arrives here – wherever that may be – willingly…but in fact what she willingly does is leaving where she was, she arrives not knowing the destination but knowing the departure only too well. As she gets to know the destination and the questions and indecision settle. Natives don’t ask themselves whether to stay or go – not as frequently anyway. They are accepted so…no fear. And most importantly, they accept where they are, why they are there so…no loneliness.

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Some parts of the books didn’t make it to the film. The omission of one part in particular makes Marjan look cleaner but a little too deceivable…loosing it all like that over an unfortunate love affair, her first. Or perhaps one should loose it all over the first unfortunate love affair so that one doesn’t make the same mistakes again and again…

I cried every time she said goodbye to her family...I cried whenever one of the characters cried…tears, tears, tears…tears from the eye of the tiger…why tiger? It’ll become clear when you watch the film…and watch the film, you must.

You’ve been warned

Eastbound platform.
Overground.
Highbury & Islington.
6.26 pm.
8 April 2008.

It’s not the most inspiring of places on Earth.
But it had an orange glow from the setting sun.

A moment of clarity as I looked across the tracks to the westbound platform.

I knew then that I was now ruthless.

My expectations were zeroed.

I was to go with the flow but truly…no arm bands, no dreams of returning to shore, some shore, any shore…stopped trying to float and just floated.

I felt lighter…worries off my shoulder….I felt truly free.

Nothing out of the ordinary had happened that day or the days leading up to it.

The usual boozy Saturday night, the usual Sunday haze, the usual Monday blues.

Spent the evening with M (the Turkish one…suddenly so many Ms around)…

In my new found flow I was no longer angry with him…all he did was say no to the scenario that cast him as my leading man…he knew what many others before him did too but I didn’t have the courage to admit to myself…the role was not really intended for him…

In that moment of clarity I realised…

In my efforts to cast my leading man I had given too much importance to every men I’d met, I’d given too much of my soul…I’d treated everyone with the same enthusiasm and love and tenderness…

Actually not everyone…those who were more likely to be ‘suitable’ got nothing…I was running away from the possibility of ever filming that scenario.

That was then…

From now on…

Everyone gets what they give…

You want to use me, I use you…and I won’t play fair.

You want love, you’ll get love…and I won’t shy away.

And that’s how I’ve become ruthless.

Two nights with Mamet and other nights

There are only very few things in life that will be satisfying two nights in a row…Mamet would have been one of those if only there weren’t so many similarities between Oleanna which I saw on Thursday and Speed the Plow which I saw last night…

In both plays, the only female character said ‘I don’t understand’ several times, delivered in almost the same voice, the same tone. One could follow the line of argument Carol in Oleanna does and say Mamet is deliberately making his female characters seemingly naïve but in truth manipulating.

Both plays develop at the same speed through their three acts as I illustrate below. In both plays, characters are annoyed or saved by the phone – that is perhaps to give those on stage a little breather from the verbal cross-fire Mamet makes them engage in…actors become fast talking loose cannons - they were looser in the Plow, a little more cautious in Oleanna…I don’t know about the plays enough to know if it was the acting or the script.

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Act 1 in both plays is relatively quiet where we learn about the characters, their past, their expectations of future, what they do and don’t understand. This is where observations about society are made – in particular the society of the 1980s when both plays were written, but some things never change. Observations are of course mostly about what’s wrong in the society.

In Oleanna, there is a long exchange about the role of education – ‘our
predilection for education is prejudiced’ the Professor says. We don’t all have
to be educated. Education is a waste of time when it’s just about memorising and
retaining information. It should be about questioning information, knowledge,
positions, power and power games. My father argued the same when he took my two
brothers out of school aged 12 and 15. He didn’t want them to grow up fitting
the same mould as everyone else. Perhaps he was right but I wish my brothers
could have made the choice themselves – perhaps that’s impossible…but isn’t
there always a mould we fit in even if it’s ‘no mould’?

In the Plow, it’s about the choice between earning money and standing for ideas
when commissioning a film – the option where standing for ideas earns money is
not discussed (does it happen?). The two film producers call each other
whores…well yes, one doesn’t have to sell one’s body to be a whore, anything
personal and sacred would do, like your honour…but sometimes whores have the
highest honour…in a way it turns that way in the Plow too.

The second acts are where things change.

In Oleanna, Carol, the young student starts to grow up but can’t do it alone…in
every other sentence she refers to ‘her group’. She puts a different meaning
to things the professor said in Act 1 – for example his recounting of a
silly saying he heard years ago (the rich make love less often than the
poor, but when they do, they take more of their clothes off) is interpreted
as him engaging in verbal pornography.

In the Plow, there is Karen the temporary secretary who falls in love with the ideas in a book – we are all scared, we are all lonely, we are all after love. Why can’t we make a film about this? That’s what people want…share their loneliness and fears through film. Is realising this the moment your life takes a turn for the better?

All masks are dropped in Act 3 and what’s revealed underneath is not pretty. Anger, frustration, disappointment lead to violence… I won’t give any more away…

There were some very interesting ideas in both plays – some of which have now, 20 years on, become truisms. Perhaps most interestingly, both plays made me wonder what I would have thought about them had I watched them at the time they were written and I was a teenager…

Would I have sided with Carol – same sex, same age, same position in life…did I
think then that a man should not patronise his wife by calling her ‘babe’?
Probably – at least until I realised it was OK so long as everyone can be called
‘babe’.

Would I have fallen in love with the book like Karen –
even if I didn’t quite (or at all) understood it? Or do I now sell a little bit
of myself when I want to get something done?

Which side was, am, will I be – with the goodies or the baddies – cause we
always want to belong to a camp?

Who is good, who is bad and when? That’s the crucial question really isn’t it? When?

We are all good and bad but when we make the choice to be what, how widely known and when known how widely approved our choice is, is what labels us as a good or a bad person…

A play that touches upon this, a play that leaves the audience wondering which character’s choice to support and applaud is a good play.

So perhaps two nights with Mamet were two good nights…

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There were about 10 members of audience in Pentameter Theatre for Oleanna, while the Old Vic was full for the latter…A couple of young actors in the former – one J who was in Faustus I wrote about last May, and Kevin Spacey and Jeff Goldblum in the latter. I think Oleanna deserved more audience and Speed the Plow deserved less enthusiasm from whoever turned up. But I guess that’s fame for you.

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I went to see the Plow with a Turkish friend, M. I thought he’d appreciate it given that he is going back to Turkey to study theatre directing and has been an actor and musician for 10 years. He didn’t know who Kevin Spacey is…

I am not KS’s biggest fan but he is in three of my most favourite films: The Usual Suspects, LA Confidential and American Beauty. When I saw the former with the then boyfriend back in 1997, we’d spent 4 hours talking about the film afterwards – nothing to do with being younger and excitable but all to do with having grey cells in common…and that’s during the then yet unspoken end of our five-year relationship. Now, 11 years later I finally can answer the question how we managed to have such a long relationship. And I need someone like that, not someone who doesn’t know KS, any of these three films but just discovered Rowan Atkinson’s comic genius – as Mr Bean mind you…

I knew this evening, in one way or another, would be the end of the episode with M – at least it’s been a happy episode.

KS is excellent by the way…he was a little over the top at the start I thought – though that could be the cocaine habit of his character – but I Act 3 he was fantastic and all through both KS and JG had excellent energy which never once dropped…that energy is what’s hardest to achieve as an actor I think.

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Two nights with Mamet were definitely better than the one night I spent Slow Dating earlier in March…You know about speed dating which is 3 minutes long, this is 4 minutes long. I had had enough of this kind of artificial introductions but I thought such a simple yet clever marketing ploy deserved rewarding and took up a friend’s invitation.

I wore a nice dress with a little cleavage, made myself up, nice hairdo (loving my new hair cut), met with three other friends (one, a man) to have a drink beforehand. All went well for about the first half…Then my round of misfortune struck…

Unfortunate man no. 1 looked at my name tag and said ‘that’s gotto be a joke’. I
may have laughed had it been delivered in a friendly manner.

Unfortunate man no. 2 (immediately after no 1) said ‘oh so you are from Turkey and you drink alcohol, you must be very liberal!’.

Unfortunate man no. 3 (immediately after no 2) was more civilised, very polite but also a little distant which I thought normal since he’d learned I was from Turkey and he is a Greek Cypriot. And I was relieved to see that two people from societies which are supposed to be notorious enemies can be civilised. What he didn’t realise was that the girl sitting at the next table was a friend of mine and she would recount to me how as soon as he sat at her table he would shrug his shoulders and twist his face in disgust and say ‘the girl in the previous table was from Turkey’…

Unfortunate man no. 4 (yes, immediately after no 3) asked permission to go to the toilet when it was his turn at my table and came back stinking of cigarette smoke…

I was very upset at the end of the night…for all the work of integration I’d done and the comfort I’d felt as a result over the years were for nothing. With people like these who are likely to be majority here I will never be integrated. I was just fooling myself and living in a little world I’d set up for myself surrounded by just friends. Then, a Turkish friend, M, consoled me the next day saying I would not be integrated with racists and fascists and boring, ‘too straight’ men even back in Turkey, and even there I would be in my little own world. An English friend, G, said the other day he had not realised how much prejudice I had faced. I laughed, I had not realised either.

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Have you heard the radio ad by Anti-Terrorist Hot Line? I just have and am appalled. Some vulnerable and sexy voiced woman asks

‘How do you know if someone just videoing somewhere for fun or as surveillance for a terrorist attack?

‘How do you know if someone is just buying something in bulk or buying to make a bomb?’

And one more question I can’t remember now…a trustworthy male voice says you don’t have to know…if you suspect call the confidential anti-terrorist hotline and we’ll investigate for you…My God…what better way to set off mass paranoia? Who are most people likely to suspect - Muslim looking, darker skinned men and women? I am disgusted!

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Just finished typing this, am going to read through it with a glass of red…why not, it’s Easter weekend, it’s a respectable 3 pm in the afternoon…and it’s snowing one minute and sunny the next…and to be honest I can’t think of anything better to do…hoovering perhaps…OK where is that half-drunk bottle from last week….

…At the bottom of the glass and this text and feeling awfully sleepy now…

Saturday musings with a smile

Being in love is a bit distracting...I don't mean the lack of attention to detail, thinking about the loved one etc....It distracts one from one’s own happiness. I’ve just realised as soon as I so much as have a faint romantic interest in someone, I start thinking how terrible / lonely / incomplete / failing my life is without him...in fact worse, it’s not ‘without him’ but just on my own…I stop smiling, laughing, feeling, hoping…When I don’t have such an interest, my life is GREAT….which is what it indeed is.

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I got a free coffee on Wednesday morning from a guy working in Pret. He was betting against another Pret guy as to what I was going to order. When I noticed this and he lost (his cappuccino to my latte), he gave me the coffee for free. When I said this made me happy and smiled, he said my smile made him happy….and I should continue to smile to others and make their day too…and then the next day was Valentine’s and I would still be smiling then…All that smiling for £1.79 and decaf!

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My Valentine’s was spent mostly on trains…went to Brussels for the day…I usually work on the train but this time slept all the way there and back…No way for my somewhat forced dream of meeting a romantic Euro-commuter who would offer me champagne at the train bar to be realised…Back at St Pancras I stopped by at M&S to get some dinner. Unbeknown to me one of the Valentine cards (for a WIFE) hanging by the tills must have fallen into my basket…I only realised this when the cashier asked me whether I wanted the card in the plastic bag too…I laughed and said “Why would I buy myself a Valentine’s card?”

The cashiers all laughed too. They didn’t question my implied status as a ‘WIFE’ and I didn’t correct them. I smiled all the way back, feeling a little fake but happy to find out how easy it was to become a wife.

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Had a party here last night….apparently I am a beautiful woman…‘a woman of/to be loved’…whatever that means…alcohol is a funny thing…

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Went to the Trafalgar Freeze today….about 1000 people turned up and froze in motion between 3.30 and 3.35 pm. Good fun…perhaps too many people for the freeze effect to work on the passers by but still good fun. Should I have grandchildren one day, this will be one of the stories that will make me a ‘cool granny’…I’ll add the video link when it’s up.

On the way back, two men offered me their seats one after the other…it felt rude to refuse the second time. I am sure they thought I was pregnant…am terribly bloated after last night’s excesses. My acceptance with a smile confirmed their implication of my pregnancy. I did my best impression of a pregnant woman until I got off.

The guy who gave up his seat got off at my station. I went to get some food and he was still at the bus stop when I got there….we smiled at each other…My bus came before his. As it pulled away I wanted to tell him that I wasn’t pregnant but still grateful for his gesture and that he was the best looking Far Eastern man I had ever seen…but I just smiled instead.

The Law of Attraction

Attraction is something that can’t be explained…nonetheless it follows a logical order.

You see someone from a distance.

As soon as you see them, you notice they are different.

Yet, you don’t make contact immediately…

Sometimes your eyes will meet, sometimes they won’t…

But when you finally start talking, there’ll be no stopping you.

There may be others at shorter distances, with easier conversations…these conveniences don’t matter…

Somehow you end up talking to each other for a long time, not minding getting notebooks and pens out and drawing plans of where you live and how it turns out you used to live five minutes from each other and never knew…

You would take out your heart and place it on the table next to their pint glass if that were possible but get your pencil case out instead to show your colourful pens…they show a particular reaction to red…

Then you walk along the South Bank…after midnight with nothing but rain drops to accompany you…Just because after another night, you walked along the South Bank with another whom you ended up kissing by the Tate doesn’t mean the same will happen again…

The same doesn’t happen again…

You cross the wobbly bridge, get them on No 25 and go home alone.

Back at home, you update your facebook status “…has fallen in love but doubts the feeling will last the night”…after a few minutes and through your boozy stupor, you go back online and change it to “…is questioning the purpose of status updates, having written something very personal and deleted it”.

One friend - one who is still working at 2 in the morning – gets a glimpse of the highly personal nature of your status update before it is deleted and, a little envious, wonders what you were up to at that late hour and hopes the feeling does last the night.

The next day you learn that they have a partner already which explains why it was so easy not to kiss and get on the bus and go home.

Again the next day, you write back to your friend “I fall in love with every men I do a late-night South Bank walk with even if nothing really happens...it's just the peace and lights of the night along this, my favourite, part of London”.

Happy New Year

Wishing you all a happy year in 2008…let it be the year of ‘laughter, change and romance’ said V but I’ve had enough change in the last 6 months….I want a quiet time of laughter, relaxation and love…

Most of all, I want to keep my eyes, ears and heart open to all the happiness around me…as I am becoming more and more aware that happiness is all around us but we are too busy / disillusioned / tired to notice it…

I wish you the same openness…

Observations from Istanbul
(30 December 2007)

I fall in love easily…..I used to think I’d never fallen in love since the guy who broke my heart when I was 20. But last night sitting in a café till 2 am with a friend I hadn’t seen since primary school, I thought I was falling in love. And if that’s how it feels, I’ve fallen in love on a daily basis for the last 17 years…

This is one of those rare occasions when the English language isn’t enough. While I think I may have written about this last year, please bear with me again. In Turkish, there are two different words ‘aşk’ and ‘sevgi’ - roughly ‘to be in love / to fall in love’ and ‘to love’, respectively.

Aşk is filled with fire, lust, emotions, tears…it comes from the heart and hangs over you like a halo. It remains mostly unrequited and ends.

Sevgi, on the other hand, is calmer, makes you happy, puts a smile on your face, doesn’t look for reciprocity, comes from your guts…its light shines from within and it lasts.

Aşk is for an individual because of something they have or do. Sevgi is for the whole person and for no reason.

Last night we both agreed that that state of being without reason (nedensizlik) is what we want in a relationship. Like most men of some education and self confidence, he enjoyed talking about his ideas, and like most artists, he liked talking about himself. Perhaps, though, he was quicker at getting to talking about love than most I’ve met.

Back at home, I fell asleep visioning my dream house…maybe he was even in it….

My dream house is on the shores of a calm lake….it’s wooden and has a veranda around its three sides – the fourth leaning against the land. I am on the corner of the veranda looking out to lake and land, my hair and long dress flowing in the wind (though the wind chime is not moving)…This image has been held in my mind for about a year now but I had never imagined the inside of the house before….Interesting that even in my dream house I am on the outside like we don’t belong to each other…

But in this visioning I was inside, I could see furniture: big comfortable sofas of light reds, oranges and yellows…rugs in the middle, wooden dinner table to the right, a big dish and flowers in the middle, kitchen at the back…somewhere in the house is my study and somewhere else there is the room where he works. I even lifted a toddler…I couldn’t see the toddler’s face but I think it was a boy...I don’t think it was my primary school friend working in the other room…but there sure was someone there…

Upon waking this morning, my first thought was ‘Olmaz’ – it won’t happen. At the time I wasn’t sure if this was ‘olAmaz’ – it can’t happen…But I knew that what wouldn’t or couldn’t happen was ‘with him’ not ‘my dream’…. I was filled with ‘sevgi’ for him that’s all. My dream can and will happen if I believe in it.

How wonderful!!!!

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I am writing again – probably because I spent the last two weeks mostly sleeping, eating and walking. That and the anticipation of starting writing one-page-a-day from January 1st thanks to the stack of little notebooks V gave me for xmas. Thank you again - best present and will help me a great deal, I feel it already. I also started reading again...Siyah Sut by Elif Safak....review to follow.

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The shutters are closed in our house in Istanbul. The lamp would be too harsh a light right now. And both the lamp and opening the shutters may wake my aunt up…so I put the TV in the room on mute, and write this (the original hand-written version) in its light. Genius.

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They still show old Westerns on Sunday mornings on TRT 1 – the only channel of my childhood.

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My family doesn’t do happiness very well. They don’t know how to share it, give it and believe in it. But they are great in sadness and pain and the love that’s needed to deal with it. They rally around, cook for you, give you their bed. It’s better this way. Happiness is easier to find with other people…but sometimes I wish my family trained me better in finding it…like truffle hunting dogs are trained.

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They’ve changed the name of the driving school at which I met my first love – the one mentioned above – to “SPECIAL MEMORY” (Ozel Ani)….need I say anything more?! (bu kadar olur!!!!).

Othello at the Donmar Warehouse
(21 December 2007)

Pity thy soul for it hath missed Othello at the Donmar. Curse thy luck for there hath never been a better Othello. And there are no more parchments that will let thy person enter into the chambers that display before the eyes of the lucky few love, hate, humour and tragedy in perfect a measure as never hath blessed the stage upon which many a bard’s words have been spoken…

Enough of that…on with today’s words…as Othello even if spoken in Shakespearean is valid today as it was then…

An Othello – we get to know him not through mysterious tales he tells Desdemona or the delightful pleasures he sure is capable of giving but his weakness. Such weakness, such low confidence in self that he trusts another man’s words more than his own instinct. A man – not just a man Chiwetel Ejiofor – whose shaking and screams of “blood blood blood” make you see the red, whose desperate search for the handkerchief he’d given his fair love makes you want to jump off the balcony and tell him the truth and save them both.

And not just Othello…

An Iago – who has two faces…one which you’d fall in love with in an instant (after all he is played by Ewan McGregor) and the other will haunt your deepest dreams forever. Should you encountered his wrath, you may as well kill yourself like Othello since never again can you trust another soul. And if you can’t trust another soul, what’s the point of living?

A Desdemona by Kelly Reilly, who surely is the lightest, the most elegant creature on Earth…She prepares for her imminent death with scared vulnerability and willing determination in equal measure…a wrongful death, no doubt, but one she seems to expect and accept…To love someone with that degree of surrender…even when the object of your love is also your executioner?...I don’t think I’ll ever understand it enough to feel it myself but it does look beautiful.

There are many others…
The beautiful Casio…
The fool blinded by love, Rodrigo…
The Senor, Desdemona’s father, who is worthy of respect through his age not through his weapons – even if he needs to be reminded of this by Othello…

Bribe, steal, do whatever you can and get yourself to Donmar…if you miss it there, go and see it when it moves elsewhere…surely it must continue beyond its current run…In a larger venue and with different cast, it may not be the experience I’ve had on 21 December 2007 which would be a pity for you…but let me end by thanking A for letting me have her spare ticket and an evening I’ll never forget.

Priorities

Family
Pride
Career
Love
Money

Apparently this is the order of my life priorities according to a Tibetan quiz (http://memoriter.net/flash/quiz.swf) I am sure there is very little Tibetan about the quiz…but the ordering made me think about where my life has been and could go…

The most important thing in this list, FAMILY, is the thing I have had least of in my life…puts lots of my ‘issues’ into perspective. Could I have done better at starting my own family – partner, children – despite such a poor start in life?

Perhaps…or perhaps my PRIDE has kept me away from trying that option...perhaps honesty and trustworthiness are so important to me because I’ve been let down by those with little or no pride (and balls – men or women)…some of whom are indeed in my family…

Pride is perhaps what makes CAREER so important to me, too…positively – because I take pride in my work and negatively – because when pride stops you from exploring the family option, you have nothing but the career (there are friends of course)…

When M says my email reads like a diary entry or a to do list and he doesn’t want to be an entry in it, I totally understand. But I hope he understands too that it’s not because he (or anyone else) doesn’t mean much to me as a human but because I sometimes have no other way to deal with life…and sometimes, as he has done by not responding to my offers, I am given no other choice but return to the security of my serious self.

How can someone have LOVE so low in their priorities?

MONEY is possibly the only thing that’s in the right place…so long as I have enough of it to live independently – since I don’t have family to look after me and my pride will stop me from living off others – I’m happy.

Could a man write this piece? Would he analyse such a trivial list for such a long time?…oh, and believe me, I’ve thought about it longer than a page…and much before I did this quiz...I don’t think so….I hope not anyway…

All this is just the ramblings of a tired mind…I feel like a bag of marbles…one of those plastic net bags…there is a big right hand holding the top of it keeping the marbles in…there is a pair of big scissors on the other hand ready to snip the bag…when it does snip, all the marbles will fall bouncing off the ground and scattering all over the place into the abyss…

I think M would understand this…and possibly he is the only one who would…M the dangerously underweight recluse of a few entries ago…M who wanted a mention here last week…M whom I haven’t seen / talked to properly for so long that I don’t know how to describe anymore…but perhaps the fact that I know he’ll understand my state of mind and how hard it is sometimes to keep hold of that bag is much better than any physical explanation.

I just wish there was someone around whom I trusted to help me collect the marbles should the bag gives way…or perhaps even someone who encouraged me to let go every now and then…give me a hug and want nothing back in return…

I’ve just looked at my facebook account after writing this and before posting…A had sent me a message “I am really really sorry…very sorry…despite your tough attitude I can tell it hurts” about something different. And here that one line gave more strength than anything to keep a hold on that bag. Thank you A. Thank you God / Universe for this renewed relief.

PS...Of course, it's always possible - as A points out - that I like horses and tigers more than sheep and pigs...

Back again…

Not much point wasting my precious time apologising for not writing for almost two months…Who am I going to apologise to anyway?! Besides ‘sorry’ is a word I’ve been using more sparingly recently…

In fact, I’ve been doing lots of things more sparingly recently…things that are not serving me, that are upsetting me, sapping my energy and so on…and am getting better at it…

I haven’t been writing anything in the last two months, and nothing of significance for much longer…that was because I wasn’t sure what has been happening. After indecision that lasted for almost four years, I’ve made some decisions to change my life…And that’s what I’ve been doing…

But believe me it’s not been easy, and am nowhere near finishing yet.

Whoever said ‘change is as good as new’ or something like that was right. I do feel like a new person in many ways…those who see me after a few weeks / months tell me I’ve changed noticeably…Not a physical change – I have the same hair, same weight, height etc. But I feel a little lighter in the head, the burden I’ve been carrying on my shoulders is lessening.

But even these fantastic results – and am not going to go into detail of the results or the process, not now anyway – have been hard to achieve. I had not realised how difficult it can be to put myself in the centre of my world; to say to myself ‘you are the most important person in your life’; to assert my wants and needs first of all to myself and then to others. Don’t get me wrong, I wasn’t some doormat that needed shaking the dust out of. I’ve always had a good life, always had just enough money, friends, hobbies; I’ve stood up for myself when needed, achieved things I set myself to etc. But I also hardly ever knew what I really wanted, also always worried about pleasing others – just never realised in how many ways, in what level of detail I was working to please others rather than myself.

Well it wasn’t going to be easy to change a life time’s habits…bad habits are hard to shake off. But am getting on with it. More details perhaps later as they relate to life in general.

Oh, and I’ve done a lot of travelling since my last entry…

Zagreb – (or Zagdrab a friend called it…) for a friend’s wedding - wish them all the best;

Amsterdam – with a friend from Turkey, wish my outlook was as sunny as the weather, but I chilled as much as it was;

Barcelona – for work and play…bumped into someone I know from Ibiza, partied as hard as worked…saw La Pedrera and Sagra de Familia again which were divine…I want to live in Barcelona…it’s definitely my favourite city.

Brussels – for work, surrounded by insincere people who pretend they don’t know something just so that the debate doesn’t move on and action is not taken;

Zurich – for work again but in extreme circumstances…that is extreme luxury…sheets like satin, two meter wide beds, a hotel room possibly as big as my entire flat, with an entire wall made of glass overlooking Lake Zurich and the Alps, five course meal with real (I emphasise real) silver cutlery…a little unnecessary I thought but still couldn’t help but envy the lifestyle of those who frequent places like that…As I sampled the luxuries, I thought I should do something to make sure I get there again and again rather than just this once…but I couldn’t think of a fool-proof solution…And…how impossible is this?...I met up with an old friend, first boyfriend in fact…bless him, he is still as lovely.

Brussels – for work again, first train out (St Pancras is great by the way), late train back…to speak for half an hour at a chemical plant in a meeting room built in the 1960s full of mostly men who looked like they had not left that room since it was built.

On a funny note, I’ve come across this website: http://www.whoshouldliveagain.com/. It is inviting people to vote who they want to bring back to life again….Putting aside the obvious impossibility of this…’God is watching this vote’ says the website…it’s made me laugh…honestly…. There are both goodies and baddies on that list, both politicians and artists (including Bruce Lee!)…There is only one woman…Marilyn Monroe!!! Have us women contributed to world nothing more than boobs? Not to belittle MM, who I think was a fabulous woman, but honestly…Who thinks of these things?!

Next they’ll say God has a page on Facebook…Actually….God’s page on Facebook…not such a bad idea!

A September Update

There is a young woman sitting next to me on the tube. She is in a grey Islamic coat and black headscarf. She has an innocent face but not very beautiful. She is reading Glamour – a women’s monthly. “Why?” was the first thing that came to my mind. Who is going to benefit from the fashion and beauty tips you are reading? What’s the use of knowing this season’s colour in eye shadow when you don’t put on make up?

That was about Aldgate East. By Farringdon it hit me… All my life I’d been reading these magazines (even if not very frequently) for others…to put on a more beautiful and attractive show for others! Men I suppose. The irony is that I don’t really follow most of those tips cause I don’t think they’ll work for me…I must have felt such a lost-cause!

The young woman in headscarf, on the other hand, is perhaps the ultimate example of someone who puts on shows for her benefit alone (she looked like a single woman to me); the ultimate example of someone who loves herself and someone who doesn’t feel the need of approval by others..or perhaps just a wannabe of a different sort.

I am not going to cover my head over this. And I doubt if many of those who do think about it this way. But I sure had a revelation that morning…yet another example of how many secrets I am capable of keeping from myself, or rather perhaps, what a surprise I am to myself. I am sure I am not alone in falling into my own traps.

How funny that this happened on the 27th anniversary of the 1980 military coup in Turkey (12th September)…I didn’t think of it all day. There are hundreds, perhaps even thousands, who must be remembering it every day…

Recently, I can’t even remember what the date is most days. Life is so fast and furious. How does that Chinese curse go? “May you have exciting times”? Did I upset a Chinese person? No, I think things that have been waiting on the sides, ideas that I’ve been harbouring for years are finally coming to fruition. “Enjoy the ride” I keep saying to myself even if it’s hard to relax enough to enjoy a white knuckle ride!

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After finishing this, I watched Michael Palin travel through Edirne, Istanbul, Ephesus and Capadoccia for his current documentary about Eastern Europe. What a great episode and I like his positivitiy and realism about Turkey and the Turks…and about his future revealed to him from a coffee cup…Ne demisler fala inanma ama falsiz da kalma (don’t believe your fortune told but don’t go without it being told either).

Small miracles do happen…

I’ve been struck down for four days now with the bug that’s going around these days…Someone said this was the time of the year most people got ill because the schools start and children exchange bugs etc….Hmmm why is it that then all single or childless people I know are ill and the parents are well?

I would have fought it if I wasn’t so tired from work and other things. Despite the tube strike in London I went to work on Tuesday from 6 in the morning till 8 in the evening. It was the day we were due to complete on the lease of our new office. By the end of the day it wasn’t complete but still the landlord’s agent agreed to release the keys to me – which apparently is close to a miracle as our solicitor said in disbelief…

About three months ago I started working with a business coach. One of the first things I did was to set out my personal goals for the short, medium and long term stretching from 1-3 months to 3 years. I don’t want to spell these out for fear of jinxing them but all I wanted to say that most of those goals I wrote down I’ve already accomplished or am on the way to do so…even those I could not resolve for years…even those I had given up hope…When I think about it logically, I realise that writing my goals down made me more open to signs that would direct me to them or give a chance to people previously would not have featured in my life…But when I let go of the logic, I am amazed by the miracle that’s happening around me.

I was negotiating with a potential business partner last week. The day after I thought we agreed that my company would lead on a bid and they would sub-contract to us, he wrote an email implying that they would lead. I spent that night restless with my trust in people and their word shattered a little more…I woke up to find that not only he’d written the bid document (and very well to boot) but also he’d responded to my email reminding him our agreement saying he couldn’t remember what we’d agreed and hence his ambiguous email, but he was absolutely happy with us leading. His quick turn around and doing the work for me when I was ill is truly nothing short of a miracle.

I got driven home by a lady black cab driver the other night who asked me if I was Turkish. I asked her how she guessed and she said “Turkish women speak English with this soft voice in a sing song tone”. How sweet. It turns out she had lived in Istanbul in the early 70s having married a Turkish man. Despite divorcing since, she’d kept his surname and expected everyone else to make the effort to pronounce it correctly. This gave me renewed energy to carry on demanding the same rather than giving up using my surname whenever I can avoid it as I’ve been doing lately. If she can carry it so indignantly so can I. This is not much of a miracle but made me happy nonetheless.

Then there is love…now that’s the biggest miracle of all…and, yes, I think it’s here.

Ah Istanbul ah

First things first – after months of putting it off I finally installed a wireless connection at home which means that the chaos of cables on the living room floor has been cleared away…

Then – some observations from the recent trip to Istanbul:

Religious Education from the Taxi Driver

As we were driving along the road accompanied by a radio station broadcasting prayers from the Quran, he asked ‘does it contain alcohol?’ about the wet tissue my aunt offered to him…I never knew that the alcohol in a wet tissue counted as ‘alcohol’ that is banned by the religion…

“If someone calls you ‘kafir’ (non-Muslim), you must immediately deny it” he said. Apparently if I don’t, in the God’s eyes I accept the supposition and am as bad as a non-Muslim. “Could this be? Is the God so blind? Doesn’t the God know how religious, what kind of a sinner, how good and how bad you are better than you? By believing in such nonsense don’t you in fact betray God’s trust in you and all that he endowed you with?” I didn’t say any of this as he is a local taxi driver and I didn’t want to cause any embarrassment for my aunty…But I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry…

All marriages have their ups and downs

Those couples who were arguing in my last trip were sitting arm in arm watching the lights of the (Princess) islands in this one. Those who said “ours is, honest to God, the best marriage around” in the last trip were having an argument at the dinner table with friends in this one.

Marriages continue by one accommodating and understanding the other and each taking this in turn. In any case, at the end, all decide to talk about safe topics like the taste of the latest orange juice brand so that nerves are not rattled and prides are not shattered.

The Bosporus is always beautiful

Especially when celebrating the marriage of a new couple with a group of happy people;

Especially when watching ladies dancing the ‘horon’ (a high velocity dance from the Black Sea coast) on 5 inch heels;

Especially when laughing at the 5 year old girl saying ‘I practised at home’ as a response to ‘how come you belly dance so well?’;

Especially when the sea and the sky get darker and lights of the houses come on;

Especially when counting the lights of the shanty town upon dark hills as if they were the stars;

Especially when singing ‘sevgili yarim nerelerde’ (where is my loved one?) on the top deck with a glass of raki in hand…

Naki Bey Beach overlooks the Sedef Island

I never knew, until about two months ago, that the sea in Istanbul was now clean enough to swim in. But ever since I heard about it, there’d been butterflies in my stomach with the anticipation of swimming there again after 20 years exactly…

I never knew there was a Naki Bey Beach on Buyuk Ada.

I never knew it overlooked the Sedef Island where I had swum the last time in Istanbul 20 years ago. I could see all my life for the last 20 years floating by…I wanted to swim after them but there were a few jelly fish around, oh and the waves…

Ibiza – the island of dance and love

It’s been more than a month since I got back from my stay with my generous friend H in Ibiza. I first started writing this piece two weeks ago…how time feels fuller than ever these days…anyway enough of my inability to understand time…

The trip to Ibiza in June was the second in 12 months, an escape from having to celebrate my birthday in London and find a refuge where I could think about my future.

Geographically, Ibiza is a typical Mediterranean destination; it has the same type of rocks, pine trees, beaches, olive and orange groves you can find anywhere along the northern coasts. What’s special about it is how there are so many different islands on just the one.

There is the clubbing scene. I am not talking about the vomiting teenagers in San Antonio where I’ve never been other than when we drove past it one afternoon. Much better is the more grown up clubbing option around Ibiza town. That’s the one I tried. And I tried it well: Pacha from 3.30am to 7.30am, and Space from 8.30am to 11 am and then again from 9pm to 11pm…All in less than 24 hours around my birthday…Oh, it gets better…I was up 38.5 hours over the weekend of my birthday. I tell you, I rock! More so now at 37, than I did at 27 or even 17!

There is nature. In the middle of the island or along its deserted beaches you can be forgiven for thinking that you are the only person in this ancient landscape. That’s how secluded one can be despite others clubbing not very far down the road. I would have liked to do some more walks but instead I spent early mornings sitting by the pool and thinking about my goals and planning how to achieve them.

Then there are the hippies, man…Don’t take this the wrong way but I think all hippies smell the same…at least on Ibiza…a mixture of sea salt, a few days old sweat and dope. After the first weekend of clubbing and a week of quiet contemplation, I spent the second weekend mostly on one of the hippy beaches watching the sun set (on the Sunday accompanied by drumming, fire shows and dancing) and full moon rise. I am sure the magic of it all will draw me back very soon.

Like most holidays, I started to keep notes which become shorter and more infrequent as the days passed.

June 20th, Santander
(where I was speaking at a conference)

Ah Spain! I love this place. It’s full of happy people. Arrived at Santander mid-afternoon, took a late siesta and now am on promenade above the Atlantic sitting amongst lovers watching the swimmers below.
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Just had coffee and churros (pieces of fried dough sprinkled with sugar), walked around, bought a pair of red espadrilles which put a smile on my face – used to wear these all through summer in Turkey but hadn’t had a pair since arriving in the UK 16 years ago . Then I had chorizo, patatas bravas and half a bottle of rioja tinto and prepared for tomorrow’s presentation. Sitting at the next table but one were two beautiful men; not interesting me neither was I in them, but they made me want to find a Spanish man in London. Arriving back at hotel, I realised that my mobile had not changed the time automatically as I thought it had so I’d been an hour behind the whole time. Good.

June 21st, Santander

Managed to get up in time so joined Spanish colleagues for breakfast, and arrived at conference venue with them. I am the only non-Spanish here. I don’t think I would mind moving to Spain – at least for a while. I felt this first time in Madrid in April where I was for work for less than 23 hours.
Spain is very much like Turkey: same slight chaos that surrounds everything from bus time tables to highly technical conference presentations. There are apartment blocks which I’d never thought I’d miss in Britain…and to boot they are all different sizes, shapes and colours – but all with large windows – not afraid of the weather, unlike the small windows here.

How peculiar that the uniformity of architecture in Britain that impressed me so much with its orderliness and calm all those years ago would come to bore me. But they do.

At the conference (which is by Playa Bikini by the way!) for three hours now. Too much Spanish spoken too fast already. I feel drunk or more appropriately hangover by this bombardment of noise.

Oh yes, Spain is like Turkey but a lot more fun and free. Promenade is full of lovers of all ages hand in hand, sitting, kissing etc. not hiding like they would in Turkey – but not blind drunk disorderly as they may be in Britain. Neither repressed nor depressed!

June 22nd, Santander

I am loving Spain and Spain is loving me back!

This is life: good work, great dinner by the sea, joyful company, good night’s sleep, walk along the promanede in the morning, talking business on the phone with an American in Sweden, free PC access in a quiet room at the conference center, and now as I try to understand Spanish politicians talking about environment (all men, all six of them, not looking like they care), my mobile charges in the corner ready for phone calls waiting to be made to H and F re planning the ‘meeting’ in Ibiza tonight.

This is life! Esta la vida!

PS. There is the unpleasant graffiti on the ladies toilet door in the posh restaurant by the sea that reads ‘immigrants out’ and worse…Very disappointing.

June 25th, Ibiza

I’ve not been as happy for a long while as I’ve been in the last 48 hours or so. It’s because of staying up and out as explained above. I ate well in that period and had the occasional nap. But mainly run on adrenalin and happiness. Absolutely no drugs and very little alcohol.

The tiredness did get to me at times though…like when I nodded off in the car yesterday and dreamt that I was driving a car like the one those boys in the film Y Tu Mama Tambien had and that we were driving to the beach they were looking for…I kept jerking not wanting to miss the turning…Or like when I nodded off laying down on the rocks across Esvedra, which is a magical rock crop just off the main island. Every time I dosed off, I dreamt that I was rolling down the rock and falling down to the sea…never all the way to the sea though as I would wake up just on the edge…

Sitting here watching the bamboo and oleander sway in the wind reminds me how the coral and seaweed sway the same way with the currents underwater: the same on land as in sea. There is so much harmony in the world that, when we stop to observe, the beauty of it is overwhelming.

What’s also overwhelming (and I’ve just realised this) is the realisation of one’s visions. I knew that I’d be sitting by the pool, reading my book and being really alert but when it does happen…mustn’t be afraid of my own visions….not just of holidays but love, family, friends, life…

June 28th, Ibiza

Spent the 26th on the rocks…played scrabble, sunbathed, had shiatsu massage, drinks at sunset and the bar afterwards…what a drama…several dramas in fact. Before we knew it, it was midnight and back at home. We finished the Rosado, opened and finished the Taittinger and still managed to get up at 9 on the 27th.

The 27th was a bit overcast. H was teaching so I went to town with her; sat at Café Toulouse Latrec; read more of Born to Succeed, made my long list of ‘things that are important’. Why? Don’t ask why?

We spent the afternoon – early evening by gatecrushing and drinking our way through a wedding and a funeral…OK, it’s wasn’t gate crushing as such. We just happened to be in the same venue as a wedding where we had lunch and a funeral where we had early evening aperitifs. By 8 pm we were home to have a long chat about what it means to spend a day at a wedding and a funeral.

I’ve thought enough about life for a while, now it’s time to live it.

July 2nd, London

I was supposed to return on the 30th of June but got back today. As we were getting ready to drive to the airport, we learnt that there were two ETA bombs at the Ibiza Airport – pre-warned, diffused, with no damage to human life. But it will have caused chaos on traffic and delay in flights. After making several phone calls to the airport, travel agency and Iberian Airlines, I thought f*** it, let’s go to the beach…but not before booking an alternative Easyjet flight for today.

It feels like 70% of the relaxation I got back from holiday was due to these extra 2.5 days…could it be? Probably just feels like it but who cares. The naughtiness, the irresponsibility of it...never before had I extended a holiday…

The whirlwind of July does not need spelling out…in fact I don’t think I can manage…living it was tiring enough (see previous entry if curious)…

…In a minute I’ll be having some chicken that was frozen for more than a month. Will I get food poisoning? What the heck…let’s live dangerously…

Oh dear...how did this happen?

how could I have missed an entire calendar month without writing an entry? Not that anyone (not many anyway) cares...but I do...so here I am cheating by writing something, just something so as not to miss a month in the collection...so as to get in here before the clock strikes midnight and August...

...Am doing far too much to stop and think let alone stop and write...

...While I am active, I am fine...but when I stop I panic. So I haven't stopped for a month...both work and play have been go go go...

...In fact there is no reason for panic...If only I could trust the feeling, it'd be like swimming in the Dead Sea, the water will keep me not just afloat but even sitting. Instead, I waddle trying to keep my head above water which after a while gets tiring and I sink...momentarily of course...then the survival instinct kicks in and I come back up...

...Soon I'll be going to Istanbul for 10 days, am looking forward to a slower tempo and the opportunity to swim...the sea is clean enough now apparently...the last time I swam in Istanbul I was 16...I can't begin to describe my excitement - I have butterflies in my tummy - about the prospect.

It's not like I've not had any time off lately. I was in Spain - in particular in Ibiza - last week of June and had started to write up my notes from that trip but it's not finished yet.

...Soon...more...

It´s my brithday tomorrow...yay!

Given the stress I had earlier in the year, I am suprisingly happy about turning 37...

Am in Spain at the moment, working a little but from this afternoon on holiday. I should be at the closing session of the conference right now but I´ve had enough of listening to Spanish, which I can half understand at best of times, being spoken at speed of light...this bombardment by words makes me feel hangover...

...So here I´m waiting for lunch and writing myself a birthday message on my blog...I don´t think I´ll bother with computer / internet for a while now...

...more later when I get back to London and type in my travel notes...

In the meantime...

...I am loving Spain and Spain is loving me back :)

Faustus Update

My comment about J not looking as he was enjoying the role of horse courser sparked an interesting exchange on the purpose of the horse courser scene in Faustus. Here is an account of that exchange from which I’ve learnt a lot and I hope those who read the original review will find it interesting too.

The exchange started when J asked if my comment was about the way he acted or the horse courser as a character:

ZEO: The whole episode with horse courser was something of a sketch within the play. I am not sure what we’ve learnt about Faustus or others in that sketch other than the fact that he would rise from dead [horse courser kills him – well tries]…that in itself is no small feat of course! But, perhaps the more interesting part about his encounters with the Pope and the German Queen was how they reacted to the temptation of evil and how they were already “bad” to be tempted so and no so much that Faustus was bad in tempting them. Guess it goes back to the moral of the story that no other person (e.g. Faustus here) can corrupt us (e.g. Pope, Queen) but we do it for ourselves. Whereas in the case of the horse courser, he was wronged, he took revenge and he failed and we (or at least I) felt sorry for him. So, I guess my comment was about the play and horse courser’s role in it rather than the way you acted. Does this make sense?

J: Ah! Makes total sense! My interpretation of the Horse Courser scene is that after playing with greatest powers of the world -- pope and empress -- we'd expect Faust to be this great man but in this last scene before his life hits his final days, we see a man who is mean-spirited and petty with the most poor and disadvantaged people in the world. It is a sad comment on what corruption does. Truly, you lose your soul -- your caring -- for others, including the simplest, nicest people (like my cheery horse courser).But that's my perspective as an actor. I have no idea how it reads to the audience. I think most people just saw that scene as comic relief, which is fine too!

J: Another thought on the horse courser moment is this: Faust is getting ready to repent and Mephostophilis finds another distraction for him. Often Meph uses women. This time he knows that Faust can't resist playing mean little tricks on people. Remember that when the horse courser first approaches Faust about buying his horse, Faust says no. Then Meph convinces Faust to go ahead. Then later, when the horse courser comes back mad as hell and looking for Faust, all he sees in Meph. Meph doesn't have to reveal where Faust is but he eventually does because he knows it will be a good distraction for a man thinking about repentance. As you would say, given your interpretation of the final scene, Meph is doing his job and doing it very well.